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This post is written for the purpose of helping a woman who nelected been essentially emotionally abandoned by her husband in the marriage to biblically assess HER responses to her situation. The only heart issues you can deal with are your own. As Joy said in her excellent response, there is nothing you can do to change your husband.
The only person you can work on is you.
This does NOT Attractive female looking for potential boyfriend you are at fault for how your husband treats you! Perhaps I could have been clearer in how I wrote that…. Thanks, Julie, for helping to clarify the wide Neglected wife seeking neglected husband of your article and to graciously respond to commenters with negative responses.
A lot of women seem incensed here Neglected wife seeking neglected husband the very thought that a wife might need to accept the rejection in her marriage and just endure.
Enduring this has been the way of life for many if not most husbands since the dawn of time. I am astounded though about the sentiment here that women are always blamed. And very rarely in counseling. On the Internet perhaps.
Why is that? Grateful to be a single, never married man.
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Because of course we, as wives, have responsibility in our marriage, but so does the husband. It seems that this faith always finds a way to blame shift to the female. I am struggling to overcome this heartache, to find solutions, ways of approaching him beyond the many ways I already have. This sort of thing is why I walked away from this faith after generations of ministers in my family: If you are a woman, you are a scapegoat. Yes, I am angry and I am hurt. Now try really hard to see how you, as the woman, are at fault, accept that your man will treat you however he sees fit… and live Neglected wife seeking neglected husband it, girlfried.
Cause after all, you are just an husbanf of Eve. Yes, I read between the lines. Maybe I am simply Neglected wife seeking neglected husband by my husband and my church. Maybe it is all my fault. How do you think we fall into the depression trap you mentioned?
Because we flay our hearts open in our search for answers, we judge ourselves more harshly than anyone else could. Why lay more blame at our feet? We appreciate your comment, dear negleected. Scripture clearly states that a husband is to be a loving servant in the marriage, and the wife is to respond in submission to his loving leadership.
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Seek God. I do not think this is sound biblical advice at all. It feeds codependency. Wow, I am in shock. I question the author — have YOU ever experienced this? If you have, where did it get you? How long has it been going on for? How is YOUR state of emotional being, your sense of self and self-worth? Sounds to me like you have no idea.
I came across this Hot housewives seeking casual sex Dolbeau-Mistassini and the many excellent responses while doing a search for: Is it Biblically ok for a wife to reject intimacy and treat her husband with disdain, hate and rejection in an ongoing manner, I already know as believer that its not but I am desperately seeking answers after almost 18 years together and an increasing downward spiral….
I simply want to say that for all the women here I feel your pain and to tell you that the answers for how to deal with that pain were and are the same ones I got in Christian Counseling; as a hurting Christian Man…Basically to get over myself and accept that the only thing I can change is myself that if my wife chooses to never change I am to focus on the Lord and accept that as my yoke… I know I have my faults and one is that after weeks and months of this rejection and hateful treatment I get frustrated and angry which she then uses as an excuse as the cause of all our problems a continuess crazy cycle we live in.
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