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Women who want children do not have the luxury to postpone marriage into their late thirties or early forties, and those who put their personal lives on hold to develop their careers can pay a heavy price. In her mid-thirties, Joanne, who is now 48, was offered the chance to make a Seeking a friend to teach s m breakthrough into a previously male-dominated occupation in the arts, Seekong took it. When she resurfaced, in her early forties, she found 'the chances of meeting someone who is single and heterosexual gets more and more unlikely as the years go on.
I've answered lonely hearts adverts in the Times; all the men who replied said they were getting letters. I spent the most extraordinary week in paradise, on my own, eating every meal alone.
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The agony of being alone was brought home to me excruciatingly there. Single women are caught in a trap.
On the one hand, the sexual revolution offered women the promise of careers as well as sexual fulfilment. Many women especially middle-class no longer need a man to be primarily a provider, but an equal partner. But even high flyers often earn less than men and may need financial support to bring up children.
Knowing this, many still look carefully at a man's prospects. An older man, with a secure job, still has undeniable attractions, even for a career woman. On their part, many men remain caught in a culture that prizes above all the young girl as the icon of sexual desirability. Of course, not Seeking a friend to teach s m men respond in this way. For Simon Bell, the most important thing about a woman is not her looks. Looks are important but Seeking a friend to teach s m whole is greater than the parts.
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The thirty-and fortysomethings are not the only ones to be affected. There aremore women than men between the ages of 20 and This discrepancy will increase as this age group gets older, as it usually has done for previous generations.
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So how would its editor, Christine Basciano, who has recently found herself single again, advise anyone desperately seeking Mr or Ms Right? Women have to run away from them, but slowly enough to be caught. And so women resort to the wiles of the Victorian maiden.
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